Congrats on your
surgery! I am
honored to welcome
you to the losing
side...woohoo!!!! I
wish you success on
your journey. This
is the first step to
your new life as a
healthy woman!:0)
Hi Tanya,
I hope your surgery
is a success and the
next few months fly
by. This is your
time, your life, and
your surgery. The
very best of luck to
you.
Cheryl
When the WOWs wind down: Reigniting your Motivation after WLS!
What happens a few years after weight loss surgery, and how you choose to deal with it, is imperative to your long term success. Once weight loss has been achieved, how do you deal with life after the honeymoon? You may still struggle with the same emotional issues you grappled with before weight loss surgery. We'll discuss this and more candidly and learn how to handle the issues without losing sight of your long-term goals. Come and be prepared to be honest, laugh and learn something new.
After a lifetime of obesity and depression, longtime ICU Registered Nurse Tanya DeLaet said "enough!"and underwent RNY in August 2006. Since then, she has lost 157 pounds and started the journey of a lifetime – some of it filmed and premiered on The Learning Channel's Big Medicine: Season 2- Children and Obesity. Tanya has been successful at reaching and striving to maintain her weight and personal goals, and has found sharing her experience with others a great motivator to both herself and her community.
This was my bio on the Houston 2008 National Event where my first step to my dream of presenting and living this life helping others finally happend to me this weekend. It was one of the greatest experiences of my life so far and worth all of the pain and trouble it took to get there. Nothing like doing this in front of all of your friends but actually it was the best cause they give the best advice and love me no matter what. The way I ended it was a huge hit and I cant wait to do this over and over again. There is a huge need for support for those post op further out. They talk about what to do to lose the weight and the first year but nothing after that and I want to do it.
I told you that I have been getting so many books lately for my own recovery and journey process. Lately I have been reading this great book on Emotional Eatting. The part that is blowing me away is on the actual emotions and your reactions to them is a huge signal and warning sign. So this should be interesting....
1. How do YOU handle CONFRONTATION?
2. How do YOU handle ANGER?
3. How do YOU handle STRESS?
4. How do YOU handle FEELING BLUE/DEPRESSION?
5. How do YOU handle HAPPINESS/JOY?
1. I hate confrontation so badly- I hate how it makes me feel and how to fix it, I tend to snack trying to fill up the energy to do it maybe
2. Anger sucks for me as if it is bad enough I cry and I hate that, with eating I dont eat but I know I smoke more.
3. Stress can be a huge issues for any of us right now with so much going on and the financial crisis. I will either snack on crunchy but mainly I totally skip eating, I forget totally- for days in fact. I also drink more wine with my dinner, small glass at that but I still do it.
4. I know for this one I crave carbs before my surgery and after. I read that you get a high from it like crack- but you crash harder then if you eat protein. But I want bread, sweets and pasta's and lots of them. I used to drink mountain dew alot here before my surgery.
5. When I am happy, I am on track, lots of great choices as I want to stay in that frame of mind so badly. I do little snacking and eat 3 meals with 2 snacks and protein shakes-
After yesterday, I am going to work on vitamin and information on them. I am NOT an expect by any means and alot of my information comes straight from my nutritionist. I need to get some info and meet with her tomorrow so I will start posting them on monday. See you all tomorrow....
On September 12th Hurricane IKE came through Houston and changed my world. Everyone kept saying that I am too far north and nothing would happen. Wrong- without power for 16 days in a row, lack of food, ice and water- roof damage, fence damage to our house and BF house has major roof damage, fence down, ruined carpets, drywall damage- In order to handle the stress I went to DFW and the best people in the world put together last minute a truck and uhaul FULL of food, water, supplies and clothes for so many people. TMB is the best ever and I can never thank enought people. Then the following week, went back and they did it again. Amazing blessing to us and to so many. I am always blown away and humbled by OH and TMB- Texas you rock taking care of our own. Lost 8lbs so I need to get back on track as I am losing too much and that freaks everyone out. Going to FL on Monday for work for a week and then on Monday Oct 13th Methodist Weight Loss Management is doing my 2 year check up- get to see RN, NUT and shrink again just like when I was trying to get approved. Maybe they wont approve me now ROFL. Take care of you and all those you matter to.
Thank you for those who post and answer as I could not do this alone and I am grateful for your help and honesty- good to know I am not alone :)
I have been reading a book called the body betrayed on eating disorders and I found an interesting thought that hit me hard. It spoke about the relation of past abuse and continuing the abuse to ourselves. You see if abuse and negativity is all you have learned and heard- it percepticates into adult hood and it comes straight from the victim herself more than her abusers. That coorlates with comfort of knowing that even negative comments is better than being ignored. So here is my question today...
What NEGATIVE comments do YOU say to YOURSELF? Do YOU find that these are harder than what others do or would say to YOU?
OMG I so do this to myself every single day. I am my own worst enemy. I see myself in the mirror and think and say horrible things such as look how old I look, my butt is flat, my thighs have filled out since I started working out so much- I still see and tell myself that I am fat. With work, I joke that maybe today they will discover that I dont know what I am doing. Tell my head that I can never get insurance stuff. With my family I say Jim can find better than me and my kids suffer cause I so dont know how to be the best Mom. I would never let another speak to me the way that I do to myself. Had no idea that I was punishing myself cause that is what i grew to know is normal. Normal is so over rated. I suck in this guys and I am not sure if I can make the "voice" go away but going to try to catch it and make it back to a positive.
Today I am asking for a solution to changing those negative thoughts- place a rubber band on your wrist today and pop it when you say something mean or harsh to YOURSELF then turn it around and say something POSITIVE- this reminds you that this is NO LONGER ALLOWED!!!
Here is some information about me: I am 38 year old with 2 teenager girls, Amanda 18 and Nicole 15. I have a very sweet supportive boyfriend named Jim. I have been an ICU nurse for over 10 years now and love what I do ( most nights ) I work 7p-7a so I am part vampire most days lol
I did this surgery because for right now, I don't have HTN or DM but if I continued at being so overweight I would develop these diseases and I want to live. I used to think this was for my girls to have me around to be a grandmother. Now I know this is for me- to live and have a life!!!!
I was a skinny kid and very active tom boy. When I hit puberty, my body changed and in so, I became bulimic to maintain a certain weight. I had some serious childhood traumas and I kept my body looking as a child instead of growing up. I weighed 118 pounds and loved how I looked. Then when I got pregnant with my first child- I ate myself to gain 50 pounds. Never totally lost it all and then only gained 17 with my 2nd child and lost 40 more pounds. I don't think I have been below 140 for 20 years.
My highest weight was 261 that I know of. I did not get on the scale for years and years not wishing to face the truth. I also stopped being in front of the camera and started shutting myself in the house- I went to work and small kid things but I stopped dancing, parties, parks or anything recreational. I tried to go to the rodeo last year and the overhead bar would not close over my chest- swore I had had enough and hated myself.
The weights I do remember are 208 cause it was the time when I was dating for the first time after my divorce and 162 back in 1999 when I took myself to Cancun for a reward alone and had the time of my life. I think my total weight goal would be 130 pounds- although I would be in heaven being 125!!!!!
Weight Loss Chart
Week Post
Amount Lost
Weight
0 Day of surgery
0
252
1 8/9/06
10
242
2 8/16/06
15 (-5)
237
3 8/23/06
18 (-3)
234
4 8/30/06
22 (-4)
230
5 9/6/06
25 (-3)
227
6 9/13/06
30 (-5)
222
7 9/20/06
30 (-0) stall
222
8 9/29/06
33 (-3)
219
9 10/4/06
38 (-5)
214
10 10/11/06
41 (-3)
211
11 10/18/06
43 (-2)
209
12 10/25/06
46 (-3)
206
13 11/1/06
50 (-4)
202
14 11/12/06
54 (-4)
198
15 11/15/06
56 (-2)
196
16 11/22/06
58 (-2)
194
17 11/29/06
60 (-2)
192
18 12/6/06
62 (-2)
190
19 12/13/06
64 (-2)
188
20 12/20/06
68 (-4)
184
21 12/27/06
68 (0)
184
22 1/3/2007
69 (-1)
183
23 1/10/2007
70(-1)
182
24 1/17/2007
72 (-2)
180.8
Weight Loss Chart
Weight Loss Chart
Week Post
Amount Lost
Weight
0 Day of surgery
261 pre-surgery
252
25 1/24/2007
74 (-2)
178
26 1/31/2007
77(-3)
175
27 2/07/07
78(-1)
174
28 2/14/07
79 (-1)
173
29 2/21/07
80(-2)
172
30 2/28/07
84 (-4)
168
31 3/07/07
hospital
32 3/14/07
80 (+4) hospital
172
33 3/21/07
80
172
37 4/18/07
78 (+2)hospital
174
38 4/25/07
83 (-5)
169
39 5/02/07
82 (+1)
170
40 5/09/07
87 (-5) YEA!!!
165
41 5/18/07
88 (-1)
164
42 6/1/07
88 (0)
164
43 6/15/07
91 (-3)
161
44 6/22/07
93 (-2)
159
45 6/29/07
93 (0)
159
46 7/6/07
93 (0)
159
47 7/13/07
95(-2)
157
50 8/2/07
1 Year Later
98(-7)
150
10/14/2007
109 (-11)
141
11/11/07
114 (-5)
136
12/31/07
129 (-15)
121
8-2-06 252 (surgery) wearing tight 20 and 22 pants/ 20-22 shirts
8-9-06 242 -10
8-16-06 237 -15 (-5)
8-23-06 234 -18 (-3)
8-30-06 230 -22 (-5) too loose 20's but too tight for 18's/18 shirts
9-6-06 227 -25 (-3) total inches lost 22!!!!
9-13-06 222 -30 (-5)
9-20-06 222 -30 (-0) stayed this weight for a damn week sigh
9-29-06 219 -33 (-3) 8 weeks post op 2 months
10-4-06 214 -38 (-5)
10-11-06 211 -41 (-3) uniform was 2x and now a Large!!!
10-18-06 209 -43 (-2) the scale is stuck
10-25-06 206 -46 (-3) 12 weeks post op 3month checkup
11-01-06 202 -50 (-4) total inches lost 56
11-08-06 200 -52 (-2) damn scale WONT hit Onederland!!!!! 11/12/06 198 pounds- I am in Onederland!!!!!!
11-15-06 196 -56 (-4) Size 14 Jeans!!!!!
11-22-06 194 -58 (-2) Feeling so wonderful NOW!!!!!!
11-29-06 192 -60 (-2) 16 weeks Post OP Uniform is now a MEDIUM
12/06/06 190-62 (-2) scale is moving too slowly!!!!
12/13/06 188 -64 (-2) 2 lbs a week??? Size 12 dresses!!!!
12/20/06 184 -68 (-4) much better loss this week
12/27/06 184 (0) scale is stalled
1/3/07 Happy New Year!!!! 5 months 183 (-1) still stalled and pissed
1/10/07 182 (-1) 1 pound a week- this is CRAZY and making me MAD
1/17/07 180.8 (-1.2) hate this slow loss!!! going to take forever to goal
1/24/07 178 (-2) ok this is the pattern now -2 lbs a week
1/31/07 175 (-3) I am at another goal early and it is my 6 month mark
2/7/07 174 only 1 lb but will take it :)
3/2/07 7 months post op 168 (-8) this month -93lbs highest and -84lbs surgery
3/24/07 bought 11/13 pants from walmart jr section!!!! All 3 of us shop same area
4/17/07 wearing size small shirts and size 10 pants can you believe it?????
5/2/07 wearing size SMALL uniforms!!!! Was a 2x 9 months ago
5/11/07 I weigh 165 pounds and finally the scale is moving again- stalls suck
6/15/2007 I weigh 161, the same exact highest recorded weight- all downhill from here!!!!
7/15/07 I weigh 157 and wear 9/10 JUNIORS!!! Can you believe how small in less than 1 yr?????
I tried on size 8 jeans at Old Navy and had to go back and buy SIZE 6 OMG never wore a 6 9/14/07
Tried on and fit and then bought size 4 jeans and size 6 are a little big LIFE ROCKS 10/14/2007
7/24/2008 almost 2 years to the day and I weigh 119 pounds- bounce between 116- 125 - life is the best ever
Mini Goals:
weigh 208- was this weight when I got divorced Done 10/16/06
weigh <200 not for 8 years Done 11/12/06
weigh 180 by New Years Eve 2007 Done 01/12/07
weigh 175 by my birthday Feb 2007 Done 02/02/07 early!!!!
weigh 170 by my birthday Feb 2007? Done 3/2/07 hospital but weight is 168
weigh 165 Done 5/12/2007 I cant believe it finally
weigh 160 by June 1st 2007 Done 6/15 only 2 weeks off LOL
weigh 155 by July 4th 2007 Done 8/2 month off
Goal weight 150 by 1 year surgery date 8/02/07
BMI no longer obese status Done 12/16/06
BMI no longer Overweight/normal BMI Done Aug 2nd, 2007!!!!
size 14 jeans Done 11/12/06
size 12 jeans/dress Done 12/13/06
size 11 jeans Done 3/21/07
size 10 jeans 5/23/07
size 9 jeans Done 7/4/07 9/10 JUNIORS small shirts
size 7/8 jeans Done 9/14/07 and Extra Small scrubs
size 5/6 pants (would this be possible) YES IT IS POSSIBLE AND I WEAR 6's and those are kinda big in fact
Size 4 done 12/01/2007 even with my PS garment I now wear a solid 4
size 2 Never going to happen IT FREAKING CAN HAPPEN- I AM NOW A SIZE 2 WITH NO PS GARMENT 12/25/07
SIZE 0 pants/skirt I AM THERE AND NEVER GOING TO LEAVE THIS- I CANT FREAKING BELIEVE I WEAR A ZERO 2/6/08- STILL WEARING IT ON 7/23/08
Ex Family- shown I look skinny and hot Done 11/26/06
Telling my family my real weight and how much I really am now done 10/6/2007 they said they never would have guessed that
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